Being Self-Pres on a Social Team

Patrick Patterson

Patrick Patterson

I was watching the Raptors versus Knicks game yesterday, and the TSN commentators brought up Patrick Patterson and Demarre Carole.  Yesterday was the Raptors' 50th win this season, so they're doing extremely well.  Yesterday it was mentioned that, due to coach Casey's work on the team over the past seven years, this is the golden era of Raptors basketball.  But no matter how good you are, there's still tension and excitement in the air because playoffs are starting in five days.  Moreover, the Raptors are playing the Cavaliers this Wednesday, who are #1 in the Eastern Conference.

Demarre Carroll

Demarre Carroll

So the TSN commentator, Jack Armstrong, was saying that if Patrick Patterson and Demarre Carole can take their game up a notch, this team can be a definite contender against the LeBron Jameses and the Steph Curries of the playoffs.  They need to work on their 3-point shooting, and if they can do that, the Raptors will have a serious chance going forward. 

As if on cue, Patrick Patterson starting scoring a bunch of threes in the fourth quarter, but it made me think about these two guys because they stand out to me for a different reason.  Apart from DeRozan himself, they are two of the only Self-Preservation guys on the team.  (I've written a lot about the Self-Preservation versus Social versus Sexual instincts here on this blog, but you can also google it.)  Their team has a really Social feel, and when you're Self-Pres around a bunch of Socials, it takes a little more work to get grounded and feel part of the team's groove.  "Reading the groove" in a group is a language that takes some skill- it comes super naturally to Socials of course; Self-Preses have to be more mindful about relaxing into it, and when there's nerves, three-pointers tend to get missed.  Of course, I don't know these guys personally, and there is also Sexual (a more intensely-focused energy, not necessarily "sexual" as in sex, and definitely not in this context) energy on the team as well with Ibaka and Tucker being brought on recently. 

But my heart goes out to two guys who have a bit extra work to do in the Social department to not only fit in as a Raptor, but also respect their own groove, because when you're a minority around Socials, it can make you feel less smart, less capable, and less present.  (DeRozan is a different story.  As a Type 9, he's got something different going on.  Nines blend into anything, and Self-Pres Nines just don't care what anyone thinks of them.)

Anyway, that's my Enneagram perspective on those two guys.  If anyone has different insight, let me know!