Type 8s

There are nine personality types in the Enneagram.  This is my very quickly jotted, bullet-point form description of an 8.  They're my favorite type as they're exactly the opposite of my type.  I love their directness, big heartedness, charm, and confidence, although they're also one of the most feared types because they can use their big energy to intimidate people-- consciously and unconsciously.

Basic Fear: Of being harmed or controlled by others

Basic Desire: To protect themselves (to be in control of their own life and destiny)
— Enneagram Institute
  • They're the most transparent in their motives, direct, and the simplest to understand (and they wouldn't be offended to hear me say that).  You don't have to read between the lines to know what they want.  They will tell you, as well as how you can help them (unless they're a Self-Pres 8, in which case they won't tell you- they'll just go and get it).
  • They like to do things BIG because they're unconsciously defending themselves against feeling small and vulnerable inside.
  • They will avoid any situation that will have them be dependent on someone- either romantically, financially, physically, or any other way.
  • Don't allow themselves to feel "weak" emotions like embarassment, sadness, or fear.  Their driving motivation is to toughen themselves up against any inner weakness they might perceive in themselves.  Their go-to emotion is anger, as it's the most accessible.
  • They love intensity.  Intensity makes them feel alive.  Depending on level of their EQ, they may use drugs, alcohol, strong coffee, caffeinated tea, sex, loud music, shock value or anything that will maintain a certain level of intensity.  Lack of intensity feels like death.
  • Physically: sometimes have a square jaw, belly is often the first to gain weight, often quite strong and/or stocky, or at least mesomorphic build.
  • "Natural leaders".  Often asked to take the lead, and they shoulder the responsibility quite seriously.  At work, they can quite often be in your face, hustling people for reports, confrontational, protective of their interests or employees, depending on what kind of 8 they are, not afraid to tell the truth, even if it offends (and for those with lower EQ, especially if it offends). 
  • In search of the truth and what feels "real".  Disdain for fluff, weakness, cowards, tears, new age shit, decorum, foreplay, tofu, and sometimes their own clothes, anything that's covering up or separating them from "Reality", or "The Truth". 
  • Need to be in control in order to be able to relax.
  • The least complicated defence mechanism: denial. 
  • Energy comes from the gut, the centre of action.  Often act now, think later (Less so Self-Preservation 8's who are very calculating about getting what they want.)
  • If you want them to stop doing something, you have to tell them, "stop doing this thing."  Sometimes it helps to put your hand out in front of you.  Anything that's direct and clear.  They love people who can match their energy and push back.  They don't like realizing after the fact that they've bowled someone over, especially a loved one.
  • Narrative of their life revolves around defending their territory, whether that be physically, financially, academically, relationship-wise, etc.  In that sense, they're the best kind of friend to have.  They think most fundamentally in terms of us vs. them, and you want to be on their side.  They derive their value from protecting those they love and being a pitbull toward anyone on the "outside"....
  • ...Therefore also often called a "big teddy bear"
  • Blame others when things go wrong. (again, the source of evil is outside them)
The Beast is a Type 8.  If you want an Eight to do something for you, just ask!  They get their sense of self-worth by being protectors of those in their charge.  But don't ask them to be vulnerable until they're 100 PERCENT ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN it will be safe to do so.

The Beast is a Type 8.  If you want an Eight to do something for you, just ask!  They get their sense of self-worth by being protectors of those in their charge.  But don't ask them to be vulnerable until they're 100 PERCENT ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN it will be safe to do so.

Donald Trump is a Type 8.  He wants to keep refugees out of America because in order for his inner Type 8 Protector narrative to work, there has to be a bad guy to protect against, and the refugees are the most obvious "enemies".  It doesn't matter if he's right to create this polarization or not, it's what's convenient to his getting into power (Low EQ).

Donald Trump is a Type 8.  He wants to keep refugees out of America because in order for his inner Type 8 Protector narrative to work, there has to be a bad guy to protect against, and the refugees are the most obvious "enemies".  It doesn't matter if he's right to create this polarization or not, it's what's convenient to his getting into power (Low EQ).

Type 8's are always innocent- it's you with the problem.  The sound of a Type 8 appologizing is like the sound of a tree falling in a forest when there's no one there.

Type 8's are always innocent- it's you with the problem.  The sound of a Type 8 appologizing is like the sound of a tree falling in a forest when there's no one there.

Here's what a Type 8 looks like when they focus their energy and accomplish something transcendental beyond his own personal goals.  Although I mean, apparently he was a womanizer and had his issues.   But still.  Good example here of a big-hearted, generous Type 8 who sacrificed himself for a greater cause.

Here's what a Type 8 looks like when they focus their energy and accomplish something transcendental beyond his own personal goals.  Although I mean, apparently he was a womanizer and had his issues.   But still.  Good example here of a big-hearted, generous Type 8 who sacrificed himself for a greater cause.

Type 8's are not afraid to throw things if that will release their pent up anger.  (Russell Crowe famously threw a phone at a hotel employee).  After they've blown off steam, they come back to homeostasis fairly quickly, but then they wonder why everyone is seething at them.

Type 8's are not afraid to throw things if that will release their pent up anger.  (Russell Crowe famously threw a phone at a hotel employee).  After they've blown off steam, they come back to homeostasis fairly quickly, but then they wonder why everyone is seething at them.

Type 8's don't want anything holding them back, not even their underwear.

Type 8's don't want anything holding them back, not even their underwear.